Therapy

 Querida Gu,  Me da mucha pena lo que escribes, yo siempre traté de hacer lo mejor y tu te negaste cuando te llevaba a clases de cosas, no querías ir. No me acuerdo de lo que me dices cuando se trata de no hablar o de tararear. Ustedes siempre se aliaban en mi contra con tu papá

Hola Ma,  Es raro escribirlo pero siento que no me quieres. Espero que no se malentienda, sé que haces las cosas que las mamás hacen y que, a tu modo quieres que yo esté bien, pero en eso yo pierdo mi identidad. No me escuchas, ni me ves... y quizá por lo mismo tampoco yo me escucho ni veo.  Cuando me haces la ley del hielo, un peso gigante se aprisiona en mi pecho. Cuando sé que estás enojada y tarareas... me desespero y al verte comer sin control siento rabia. Porque también yo estoy comiendo de esa forma.  No recuerdo actividades o cosas memorables que vivimos juntas, excepto los cumpleaños de la infancia, eran grandes y divertidos con actividades que tu ideabas.  Siento que soy mala para todo, no sé andar en bicicleta, las cosas me dan vergüenza y en los deportes... uf... es horrible. Como nunca logro agarrar una pelota me desespero y angustio muchísimo y prefiero evitarlo todo. No sé porque tengo tanto miedo.  No me gusta leerles a los adultos, forzarme a c...

  What I mean when I say this is a Narcissist’s relationship with another person—whether it be a girlfriend, a child, a sister, or a parent—is one of the many tools in a toolbox that he can employ to facilitate his self-esteem. What’s more, his relationship with you is only as good as the next fluctuation in his self-esteem. https://www.quora.com/What-is-going-through-the-mind-of-a-narcissist-when-they-seek-a-new-relationship-Are-they-looking-for-a-genuine-relationship-or-is-it-a-conscious-thought-process-even-in-the-beginning-that-they-are-actually-seeking http://www.elinorgreenberg.com/

  What emotional void was I trying to fill in my relationship? How was I trying to gain love and approval from my emotionally unavailable partner? Which feelings within myself do I push away? Where do the emotions reside in my body? Where do my feelings of rejection/fear of abandonment/unworthiness stem from? How were my emotional needs not met in childhood? “When the empath and narcissist enter into a relationship together, it creates a magnetic, yet dysfunctional union because the empath gives to the point of complete and utter exhaustion. Profoundly disoriented, the empath is often destroyed by the relationship. This experience is painful and overwhelming but ultimately, the empath undergoes a soul awakening. The narcissist remains the same.”

    If an empath sets boundaries and walks away, refusing to internalize the projected feelings of the narcissist (i.e., the narcissist projecting their own worthlessness onto the empath), then the abusive dynamic would cease to exist. --- The empath is hoping to be truly seen and loved by the narcissist. In fact, their sense of worth is tied to being loved by their narcissistic partner. An unconscious thought process is taking place, whereby the empath believes that, if they can overcome the challenge of getting the narcissist to love them, then their worth will be validated. In other words, if they can make the person who is incapable of love, love them, then they are truly worthy of love. They try to heal the wounded narcissist, hoping that once healed, they in turn will provide the empath with the love and validation they so desperately desire. Underlying their unconscious desire to seek love from the unloving narcissist is an acting out of a childhood relationship dynamic...

  Empaths undergo many traumas and transformations in their lives, a source of their abundant empathy, and possess little ego of their own. The death of the ego, is an empath’s calling card– and from that point onward, they are on a mission to nullify that, in whoever they come across. Empaths intuitively understand the negativity of the ego. They recognise the human ego, is the cause of every single quarrel, fight, war, oppression, abuse, bullying in our world. An empath reaction to the inappropriate behaviour or attack of toxic people, is eternal silence. The sooner they can discover who the real abuser is, the wiser they become as a human.